Post by yourfriend4ever on Jun 7, 2017 4:39:02 GMT -8
I'm interested in this topic of thought-stopping, because I actually have obsessive-compulsive disorder. I don't use thought stopping or anything. I'm just interested. I need to use thought-stopping to stop thinking about a certain person. To not obsess about them. And about what they are going to do. Or not do. They aren't talking to me. I'm still in addiction. Not ready to let go of my POA. I'm trying not to communicate with them at the moment, but this is because I want them to want to communicate with me. They said something yesterday. In reply to something I said. I emailed and said, "I don't want to play games. Bye." And they emailed the next morning, and said, "Goodbye." It was yesterday morning they emailed. They got the reaction from me they should have expected. And may have been expecting. So, they should know I don't "want" to go, because I let them know. I sent several emails, and a few texts. A lot of my emails said the same exact thing because of my OCD. I think they wanted to get the reaction that they got from me. I think maybe they knew that I wouldn't like for them to say goodbye. I think they did know that. I guess they knew that. But I also think I shouldn't talk to them to give me some detachment from them. I mean, text or email them. Or send voice recordings in text. Because these are the only ways we talk now. Those are usually the only ways we talk. I've never met them in person. But I've known them for at least six years, I believe.
I’m constantly thinking about the situation replaying the past in my head. It’s hard to concentrate on anything else because I’ve been doing it for so long. It’s now an addictive habit. I’m going through withdrawals right now and it’s so tough. Atleast I can put a term to it now and know others are going through this. Before I really thought I’m going mad.
I’m constantly thinking about the situation replaying the past in my head. ...
I go through this a lot when am laying down to sleep. My mind parades out all of my regrets and mistakes. The term for this is Rumination. If you are familiar with cows, rumination also refers to a cow chewing cud. We just chew these digested experiences over and over.
A good technique to stop Automatic, Negative thoughts would be to have a set of positive thoughts ready to substitute in. When you recognize the bad thoughts coming, interrupt yourself with your conscious will and sub in a real positive trait that you possess.
Today I found myself thinking about my POA, it has almost been three weeks I would like to stop thinking about her and cut her out of my thoughts completely. I did this and it helped to refocus: I brought myself to the current moment by looking at tangible things in the room, I focused on that item and then I focused on another item and I was back in the room and back in the moment.
I feel that we think these thoughts to escape the painful emotions that we are about to feel. Today I did well in stopping thoughts but then the painful emotions took over. And instead of running I faced them. I had to pray as I couldn't deal with it alone.
There was one horrible moment where I sat down in my room and felt such a horrible feeling it was not pain but the closet thing I could describe it to is maybe a panic attack. I was not having one but it felt like the start of one (I have maybe only had one in my entire life). I felt utter despair and grief. Just a scary moment but I moved past it and was okay.
John Bradshaw, may he rest in peace, used to say that love addiction is a thinking disorder because it was all based on distorted thinking and projection. Once you get past getting someone out of your head you are really on your way to a brighter tomorrow.