So far I've met with five therapists about my LA, explaining that I have severe abandonment issues as a child while growing up in a dysfunctional home which has led to my LA. They all seem to know little about LA and seem to dismiss the notion.
I know that I need Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to work on my inner child which I believe is the root of my LA and then work on my LA issues. I don't know what to do, I'm so confused and frustrated I want to make sure I find the right Therapist.
Post by Iamawomanallbymyself on May 26, 2019 20:33:15 GMT -8
Love Paris, for me is happening the same. With my therapist I don't see any progress. Should I just stop with him? I don't know what to do. The same with my new Slaahow sponsor. We started 10 days ago and I am frustrated with her. She is a sex addict and not a love addict so probably because of that she is not helpful. Any suggestions please?
Hallo I had to change several therapists and none of them was an expert about love addiction.
I felt they didn't understand me, my issues.
So I studied love addiction on web and books and found a therapist I had a good empath with. In therapy what is important is a good and nurturing relationship between client and therapist. One become "expert" in love addiction only when they pass throug love addiction, when they live the experience. So I think it' very hard to find a therapist who knows about love addiction unless they are ex love addicts. The solution could be having a therapist with whom you are empathetic and finding a friend or a sponsor who is an ex love addict so to feel completely understood.
Last Edit: May 27, 2019 13:42:00 GMT -8 by Namaste
My therapist is not an expert in love addiction, but she works with addicts and understands/knows the underlying conditions thereof.
I believe it is essential to have a strong therapeutic alliance -- and I have that with my therapist. She knows mine is a spiritual solution (I am a follower of the Holy Trinity) and she encourages me in my spiritual endeavors that help me on my path of recovery.
My first therapist seduced me and offered me money to have sex with him.
My second therapist let me rant about whoever I was in love with at the time but offered me no solution. He did get me back in college.
My third therapist hinted that I might have been molested by my father. I stormed out the office and never went back.
My fourth therapist was a Freudian and said nothing. The transference got really bad and he asked me to move on. But he did help me understand my relationship with my father and that I was indeed molested. I figured out for myself that his was part of my love addiction history.
My fifth therapist said I might be a "closet narcissist." She was unavailable when my partner died so I left.
My current therapist is very wise and knows the steps. He is helping me a lot.
My ultimate therapist is my Higher Power who gives me the willingness to learn as I go along and to be honest and never stop growing.
“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it elsewhere." Buddha