Leave now. He is a predator. He will damage you. I guarantee it. Any progress you think you have made is an illusion. I know. PM me if you want and I will give you my experience. I don't want to get into it here.
If he has sexual feelings towards you, and he is married, and he is in a position of authority (as your therapist), believe me, starting over with a new therapist is nothing compared to the damage this man could do (and is currently doing) to your soul and psyche.
bklynrnn..........that's great news that you're going to see a new one. I know it's hard changing therapists...........once I had to go thru 4 of them in 5 weeks in order to find one I was happy and comfortable with. Here's a hint.........Life is hard, nothing is easy but it's worth it to persevere, just keep going, don't quit. You're on a good path now.........new therapist and all these wonderful women in this group here. You have people who care about you and will not lie to you.
I'm so sorry you have had to go thru that confusing, emotional time lately. It is something you will have to discuss with a trusted person in order to resolve the issues surrounding it. When you're ready to. Meanwhile, continue doing things that help you feel better and happy. Don't forget the fun stuff.
Just an update....Went and met a female therapist yesterday. She seemed OK...I gave her a basic overveiw of my history and said I was really here to interview her. She seemed ok about that and understood that. I made an appointment with another woman in 2 weeks though. I didn't get much of a feel from this one. She seemed kinda flat. Not that her job is to entertain me or something but I just didnt feel much....
On another note...I joined a 5 week seminar/class at a Healing center here in NY. It's a sexual/spiritual healing class and they use a technique called Focalizing...Focalizing is based on Peter Levine's Somatic experiencing. Went to the first of 5 classes last night.....seems really promising . Great group of people with a variety of past trauma. The group I sat with seemed very authentic with their feelings and I expressed my own discomfort about the newness of the class....fear of the unknown and why I was there...just felt good to not care at that moment what everyone else was thinking. I allowed myself to be vulnerable which is not always easy for me. More to come about this class and the techniques. Thanks for reading
bklynrn I am sorry I missed this whole thread but so glad you did the right thing and took care of yourself. Will look forward to hearing about the focalizing technique. I like Peter Levine's work and have benefited from it. Sounds like you are taking really good care of yourself!
bklynrn, what a relief to read that you left the male therapist. Good for you. Please don't look back! Your own intuition was right and it's usually a good idea to follow our gut instincts. good luck....keep listening to your higher self.
Post by brainhealth on Jan 14, 2012 13:26:50 GMT -8
I'm not religious, but I do believe in spirituality and angels etc. You father was looking after you. He gave you a bad feeling about that male therapist for your own protection. You know what, regardless of what we believe, there is a presence in all our lives, whether it's our primtoxic brain or spiritual anscestors. If we are seriously looking for truth and happiness in our lives, apart from this wonderful message board, there are things outside of us which /who leave markers for us to take note of. The problem is, we are often too stressed out to see these markers. Somehow or other, your marker got thruogh to you. Thank God. Delighted you left this predator. Keep posting. There is so much common sense written on this board by the people above.
Decide where you want to be, then take the steps to be there. But, most important of all, believe that you can get you there.