I'm a little confused of late. I came here in dire distress, obsessive thoughts, compulsive actions, a man gone from my life. I DO have a history of associating with men who aren't exactly emotionally available, and getting into relationships where I do & give ...more than my head tells me is right and fair.
However, between therapy and journaling and thinking, I've realized a few things:
1. I have next to no issues with romantic relationships morphing into friendships.
2. Be it while I'm in a romantic relationship, or a former lover has become a friend, I'm pretty normal, sane, and functional. I do NOT think about him in any way that interferes w/ my day, I do NOT even care if communication happens daily, I do NOT cyber-spy on his life....mostly, I go about my business and feel pretty in control of things.
3. It is ONLY upon the total severance of contact with a man I care about in some way that I go ballistic and off the deep end.
I fully accept that I have a problem (or maybe problemS.) I'm just not sure anymore if abandonment is the real culprit or love addiction...