I noticed I am feeling like BOO HOO poor me. Victim Victim Victim. I always do anything and everything he wants but when it comes to something I want he says...."great have fun...I'm not going with you". I guess that is totally just a guy thing but it really bugged me last night. Things like that don't usually bug me but I don't know why but I have been feeling so down and sad for over a week now. Nothing is going on to make me feel like this....serious case of the blah's. He said I seem really depressed & withdrawn. I just want to be alone right now.....I NEVER SAY THAT!!! I want to be at his house and around him and my daughter but I want to go in the bedroom and be left alone to stare at the wall.
Why am I feeling like this? I am soooooooooo tired and I have a constant feeling like I am going to cry. I don't like this at all!
Post by LovingGracefully on Feb 8, 2009 23:28:24 GMT -8
Well, it's not normal for you to be living within the confines of his life and him not living in yours. Together you have individual lives and together you have a life together. When you are only living inside his life and he's dismissing your attempts to allow access into yours...well, Robin, to me that's a HUGE red flag.
It seems to me that this behaviors shows incredible disinterest in your world. That is scary...and I've been there before.
Together we had a great time...and within his life and his friends and family it was fabulous. But, when it came to being involved with my life he seemed to just dismiss me and make excuses not to be involved. It was really a double edge sword to me. I mean, as long as I was involved inside HIS life things were peachy...but, why did he have almost no interest in being inside MINE?
Think about the two of you in a separate sense walking on individual paths. How many times does he ask or want to learn what's going on on your journey?
RED FLAG! RED FLAG! Can you see it? The problem is this: Is he disinterested because you bring him into bad situations or is he disinterested because he's not truly wanting to know ALL about you?
This will lead to so much frustration and aggravation! I lived in this and made a millions excuses for his behaviors...none of them were valid. I wanted to believe that he wanted all of me...not true. Just interested what I could offer within HIS life.
See, when you start veering off your path to join him on his...if something happens you won't know where to go. You are on his path and not your own. This is not right. Please look closer into this behavior and don't pass it off as a "guy thing". It's a sign of trouble, in my opinion.
I agree with you about veering off my path to be on his. I do that. I need to stay true to what I want and need to do in my life. But as for his disinterest in my life....that isnt it. He is very interested and encouraging. Funny cuz Friday night my friend was having a surprise party for her husband (he doesnt know any of these friends....my Mary Kay girlfriends...too pink for him ) anyway he really wasnt very excited about going but he went and it was fun. He actually ended up knowing quite a few of the husbands....yeah!
Another day of the BLAH's! I hate this!!!
Thanks so much for your reply. I don't always think of those things and I need to think before I jump.
Have a great Monday!
Last Edit: Feb 9, 2009 7:39:43 GMT -8 by roknrobin