Post by dalesgirl on Sept 30, 2012 16:24:42 GMT -8
Hi, my name is Dannie and i am certainly a love addict.I am engaged to be married to my guy in just 22 days. He is aware of an affair back iin Jan and another in JUne. He is not aware that I ahve seen the guy from the second affair several times since June. My fiance does not live here so it makes the acting out easier. There is no SLAA or LAA or SAA in my city and only one SA which is all men and does nothing but trigger me. I have a sponsor from SA but he is by phone /computer only. I am also about to start a new and stressful job which I know will make me more needy. I am barely hanging on. I am praying for some friends/sponsors. Thanks.
Post by Jacarandagirl on Sept 30, 2012 20:47:22 GMT -8
Hi Dannie, Welcome here. There is a forum for newcomers to tell their stories on so we know where you're at. If you have a look you will get to read more about love addiction and find out more about why you might be behaving this way. It sounds like a horrible way to start a marriage. You're still 22 days out, you have time to postpone. Unless you have finished your affair for sure, I recommend not getting married.
"You deserve better than something that may be comfortable for you but you already know doesn't work and that you'll be complaining about soon enough and hoping that something or someone else will do what you can't even do for yourself. You deserve better - you deserve change".
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You are a giant vacuum, neediness is why I think your acting out so severly. Your fiance diserves to know you have been unfaithful. You definitly need help, stay with us, post regularly, and start the voyage of self discovery.