Absolutely I can relate! It's true that "one thing leads to another". So as I recover from my ex-POA addiction or obsession towards my past friendship, I'm also overcoming my seductive withholding towards admirers, excessive reading, watching, studying, analyzing, and interest over hollywood news, etc. Plus, I'm more cautious now in giving gifts. I try to balance things now w/ GOD's help! Great post Light! Thanks! : )
"Recovery" is a component of self=actualization which is becoming the best you can be. It is also called individuation, maturation, or just growing up (which my therapist once suggested I do.)
The part of individuation that starts when you go into remission for various addictions is known as, for lack of a better word," recovery.
Like growing up, recovery can be interrupted and we can regress backwards to child-like states. Eric Berne explains this in his work known as transactional analysis (parent, adult, child ego states). The Games People Play.
While many addicts want to reach a plateu and just glide along, or better yet, graduate, recovery is really only remission and subject to a slip, relapse, set back, etc.
This is my belief and it is not shared by everyone. Correct me if I am wrong, but I think LovelyJune and others on this board believe in a cure.
The first 100 alcoholics who wrote the book, Alcholics Anonymous, referred to themselves as recovered. However, today, most alcoholics in AA use the word recovering.
Choose what you want between these two points of view, but if you believe in a cure, please stay humble and watch out for this addiction because, as is alcoholism, it is "cunning, baffling, and powerful" [and insidious]."
I had s setback during the 20th year of my recovery. I was set up by transference in therapy. I had another slip when my partner died 25 years into recovery. I bounced back both times and both times I never left my support network. I could really "feel" my recovery during the second slip because I did not get suicidal and it only lasted a few weeks.