Post by Butterflygirl on Mar 20, 2015 14:06:35 GMT -8
So much about love addiction will make more sense when you have a firm understanding of the difference between the conscious and the unconscious. The consciousness is what you are thinking. The unconscious is like the downstairs apartment. You hear stuff going on but to really know what is happening you have to cut a hole in the floor. That is what therapy is for. Bring your chain saw.
Post by midnightcry on Mar 20, 2015 15:56:01 GMT -8
I couldn't do it without therapy, there are no groups in my area. I only get to see my counselor once every two weeks, I have no sponsor nothing. I pray God will put a live person in my path that can walk the road with me. This board is a blessing but I'm not sure if it's enough. I'm so afraid of just staying in the same spot and never making it out of the pain.
I understand and can relate to your post, midnightcry. I am in intense psychodynamic therapy, and it has been a crucial component of my recovery. In terms of joining a group, I tried but did not have success (my sponsor 13-stepped me and I became near-suicidal). Like you, I was "afraid of just staying in the same spot and never making it out of the pain" -- in fact, I can relate to the Israelites in Exodus, who wandered in the wilderness for forty years, trying to find the Promised Land.
What turned things around for me? A strong faith in HP (Holy Trinity) who (through fervent prayer) led me to the right therapist, psychiatrist, and the tools I needed to FINALLY make it out of the pain. I understand that there is not one path that all of us follow -- but this the path that finally led me out of the wilderness of chronic pain and addiction and into the Promised Land of Healing and Hope....