Hello. I know I’m a Obsessed Love Addict. I’ve been one for the last 10 months or so. Possibly longer if I include our previous encounter from 14 years ago. He is unavailable emotionally and controlling. He is also selfish. He cannot commit to me of course because he is in a relationship. Yet I know this. I would think about him daily. Plotting and planning on how I could sway his decision in my favor. While I think everything is good between us, I also hurt. I think about his girlfriend and how much she would be hurt if you knew even though I don’t know who she is. I’ve been in her shoes before. This morning I prayed and meditated asking my Higher Power for help and strength to help me to just let go. My phone has been silent since early morning today. I am grateful. I will ask my Higher Power for another 24 hours to not be obsessed and for continued guidance.
Erotic, passionate, romantic, preferential LOVE can become an obsession for people who have addictive personalities and did not get enough love as children. Some people think romantic love will make up for childhood neglect. It won't. Only self love and love of God will do that. Find God and love yourself. That is what worked for me. Then will I experienced romantic love in recovery is was wonderful but not addictive.