went about 2 months NC with POA then contacted her. she seemed interested but apparently it was all in my head. she told me she wants to be friends and would like to hang out. that she is no longer looking for a relationship and enjoys being single. since our dating situation never got fully off the ground should I be her friend ? I don't fully trust myself on this, I really wanted to date her. Plus her drug use triggers my own addiction. But at the same time I do miss the texts and could definitely use some more reliable friends. I dont think I will like it it she talks to me about dating someone else tho. what to do what to do ??
tracer. I don't think I would be her friend. You want more. Her drug use is unhealthy for you. The more time you spend with her, the stronger your desire to be with her will become and you'll be in a worse situation. I would get out while your only waist deep and before your drowning in despair. Also, spending time with this person will keep you from finding a healthy, mutually loving relationship. Stay strong and make decisions from logic, not emotion.
thanks Rick, you are correct. I need to stop going on her FB page also (cyber-stalking) as it is not helping me get over her. How do we let go of these people who don't want us in the same way we want them, its just awful. I have been thru this so many times...
No. There is no "friends". It's like that camel nose under the tent. All you need is that little hit, that portion of *hope*...and then you're right back where you were. Perhaps you don't miss her, her texts. You miss the *hit* of that contact with her. Then you get on the "maybe, could have, should have, maybe..." Nah. You're moving forward past this. A bit of hard-core advice: no FB stalking. If she is a "friend" on FB, put her posts to hide. Or, go nuclear and unfriend her. Why be tempted?