Post by Butterflygirl on Feb 16, 2019 11:24:16 GMT -8
Cross talk, for those who don't know, is responding to what someone else says. On this board, cross talk should include only compassionate and helpful remarks. "Tough love" should be sandwiched between kindness and the truth. We use SET communication here.
S = Sympathy E = Empathy T = Truth
You must really be having a hard time. I really feel for you. You should really break up with this guy.
It is not advice that is good or bad but how you give it. Because people often do not know how to give helpful advice, it has been banned from many groups.
We must be compassionate and kind, but tell the truth. We must find the fine line between bad advice and good advice. Even "tough love" must be delivered with compassion.
Other programs are right about one thing. Advice, given as your own experience, strength and hope is often easier to take by others. Words of wisdom from the wounded healer reassures people that they are not alone in their struggle.
Don't worry about being perfect at posting. Just talk from the heart.