My name is Abigail and I am a love addict. Just over 4 years ago I was very resistant toward the idea of love being an addiction. I had problems, of course, but these problems were because of my drug and alcohol addiction and the people around me... Or so I thought...
I was able to recover from my dependancy on drugs and alcohol but still I was a beautiful mess. Hanging onto recovery and still searching for love; searching for someone else to make it all better I stumbled hard into LAA. I arrived sober but broken, guided but lost, supported but so afraid and I just couldn't understand what the problem was. I was ready to accept the help.
Thanks to this wonderful discovery of LAA I came to understand my core addiction. I now understand where it surfaced,how it created absolute destruction in mine and others lives and most important of all, how to arrest the unhealthy obbsesive behavior. Of course this is not without intense withdrawal and heartache. My journey has by no means been easy or smooth but it has been life changing.I now know a new freedom and I always remain teachable.
I am very happy to be apart of this forum and this wonderful felowship. I look forward to many more teachable moments.
Hello! You sound like you know the work - congratulations on your continuing sobriety from drugs & alcohol.
I used to be resistant to what Howard Halpern called "attachment hunger" (somebody help me here - was it Howard Halpern who coined this phrase? If not, set me straight). Meaning you crave to be attached to somebody or the idea that "somebody" can "save" you or be your "soul mate". After I stepped back and took the time to figure my stuff out, I began to agree with this idea of "attachment hunger".
Like the old car advertisements used to say, "your mileage may vary" and the very good slogan "take what works discard the rest" (or words to those effect). Welcome!
Post by loveanimals on Apr 5, 2019 22:23:44 GMT -8
Welcome to the forum Abigail. This is common that once someone gives up drugs and alcohol, then the love addiction surfaces. Especially because one can live without alcohol and drugs, yet most humans want a connection. Just not unhealthy love.