I’m not suicidal, so this doesn’t belong in the suicidal thread. But sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy, and I need to talk to somebody ASAP.
I now believe that my feelings towards my bf, L, are part of my addiction. We’ve known each other 17 years; we had problems and I moved out; about a month ago we agreed to try again and I moved back in. But now I’m feeling anxious and needy because the feelings between us are not the way they used to be before we had problems. I’m finding myself feeling very clingy, anxious, and needy.
I try to minimize this behavior when we’re home together, but it’s hard. I want more loving words and physical affection from him than I’m getting. We talked about it today. I told him I love him and I want things to work out for us, and asked him if there’s anything I can do. He said that it would be a mistake for me to act unnaturally, that things will work out if they’re meant to work out. He also said that the last few years he had withdrawn into himself and it’s taking him awhile to come back from that.
Anyway - sometimes I feel needy and crazy and upset, and I know the best thing to do is to come to this board and seek out other love addicts in recovery. I need help, but this site is so inactive. I’m going through and reading all the posts, and I see how active this site was a couple of years ago. And I feel terrible because I need more help and response than I’m getting. If only I was here three years ago!
I’m from Japan where there is only one LAA self help in Tokyo in the country. I can’t attend it regularly. I am not a native English speaker. There are people who give us suggestions and comments but I think they are kinda “experienced.” I am a new comer and afraid what to say about your symptoms. I guess there are people reading your posts but they are careful to give you comments because they know you are in a serious situation. It’s just my guess.
I was thinking the same thing - back in the day our board was cranking. I wish I could be of more help to you in your struggle.
A person who used to post on this board PMed me. I asked this former member where other folks are interacting. I am wagering FaceBook groups. Have you tried searching for FB groups for anxiety/love addiction/love addiction recovery? If such groups exist, the would most definitely be "invitation only". I say it's worth a search.
Yahoo! groups USED TO BE a thing too - but Yahoo! groups have pretty much withered away.
See if the group is private. I am on an few FB groups which are private. They may appear on my "wall", but posts cannot be seen. It says "Private Group" if you click on it. (or is it "by invitation only").
Obviously, before you post ANYTHING of a personal nature, make sure that FB group is private!! But you know that.
Another suggestion: Make another FB profile with no identifying information and join the group under the faux profile.