I was a Torchbearer. I could only minimize my love for one guy when a new guy came along. In recovery, I was single so I transferred my passion for my PoA to my Higher Power. Then I met the right man and now I love both.
Last Edit: May 27, 2019 15:20:18 GMT -8 by Namaste
I'm glad it helps. You have a great awareness and you got the idea that you have a "torchbearer" tendency. I would recommend this book, "Let Go Now: Embracing Detachment" by Karen Casey. It would help you to let go and move on. Yes, just one day at a time.
Your recovery is worth the pain of your withdrawal. Remember that "the pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow." Fantasy-based relationship is a lie. Face your reality and stay well!Kind Regards to all LAA members here, - Codepnomore