Post by scooter2177 on May 12, 2010 2:01:23 GMT -8
HI...was readng the the posts... and definitions..and finally REALLY realized what I am..I knew I wasnt a sex addict for sure..thought i was a love addict..then a relationship addict...but the symptoms didnt wuiet fit...But i see that THIS is it! I haev deeveleoped this habit of getting to know alot of people..men..on the internet and will geuinely go go them for support..but what happenes w/ me is when someone is nice to me..supportive and giving me all that attention that i CRAVE..i then get attached to them..and it grows..I KNOW nothing will ever develope into anything ..thats ok ...its justi constantly have to pull myself in from getting a REAL abd crush on them..I will start to look for them online...I have been trying to keep busy with chores, hobbies etc..I pray alot...but its hard work breaking this habit..Any suggestions? Thanks...
I understand -- I'm addicted to male attention, male energy, male approval. I am fortunate that I have wonderful, close female friends, so I have some balance in my life. Therapy and really delving into the 'why' of this soul-crushing craving has helped me a lot. I knew I was not able to 'solve' this serious issue on my own -- I found that simply focusing on chores and hobbies did little to relieve the cravings -- they simply were a temporary mask. I needed help (group therapy) - I still do. But that's ok, because I have my whole life to recover...
Post by Loving My Life on Jun 11, 2012 16:40:23 GMT -8
hi leanna and welcome to the laa forum. Can you go to the "newcomers thread", under the "home" and introduced yourself, tell us your story, how you got here and what your recovery goals are? Again welcome, you will find alot of knowledge and support on this forum.
One day at a time :-) :-). . .We can do together, what we could never do alone. :-) And a problem shared, is a problem cut in half. :-) :-)
Like any addiction, it CAN be managed, but one has to do the work. First things first -- stop using. I found true recovery by going to a therapist weekly (she specializes in addiction) and being accountable to her. I still take it one-day-at-a-time so as not to be overwhelmed; I've been in therapy (at least once a week, sometimes twice weekly) for nearly two years. For me, intense therapy and inner child work (John Bradshaw is a terrific resource) were the crucial keys to recovery.