I have read this article and it has planted a seed in my head, that I am afraid could get me in trouble. I have held a torch for a co-worker for almost 8 years, and I need it to end. I used to post on this board a few years back when things were really bad, and I am ashamed to say the obsession over this person is back and very painful. The article mentioned above suggests that we confront the person and present them with our case if for no other reason to hear the truth, to actually experience the rejection and get closure. I am guilty of not communicating my feelings to her ,mostly because intellectually I know they are inappropriate. She does not feel the same way, she is age inappropriate, and I don't want to lose my job over sexual harassment. I am in a very difficult situation. Every day, for the last two months, I have really had to reign in my emotion, and failing pretty badly. She is also now my manager. There is a level of enmeshment bewtween us, some caretaking on her part, and neediness on mine. But, one thing that struck a cord with me in the article is that there definitely is a shadow of a doubt in my heart about the possibilities of a relationship. And I think, that is what keeps me hanging on. In my head i know there could never be anything between us, nor would it be good for either of us to start anything. I know she does not see me in any other way, then a work friend, and she has even told me that to my face upon questioning.
So, my question is, as delusional as it sounds: Should I try what this article suggests? Ask her if there is a possibility? For the purpose of hearing the truth(being rejected), so I can move on... I haven't been able move on so far, and I am very desperate. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. Also, I just realized this may not have been the best place to post this. Please feel free to relocate it. --Kelleyboy.
Last Edit: Apr 6, 2013 22:06:38 GMT -8 by kelleyboy