My current PoA has not contact me in ten days nor I him and today I am having a lot of anxiety as he is due home at the end of the month, he will have been gone for three months, and I am afraid that he will not contact me when he gets here. I have been stalking him on facebook, although we are not friends, I stalk people that he knows to see if his picture shows up on their friends page, i have convinced myself that if his picture shows up in the top 10 list that he is been in contact with them. yes, most are women that i stalk and i do realize that it is fueling some self fulfilling prophecy that he is not going to call me because he has met someone else and that I am not good enough.
Hang in there lucybumkin...I know it's hard. Try to be strong and know that's it's not that you're not good enough. You'll just drive yourself crazy looking at his FB page. Try to do something else to keep yourself busy.
FB is a curse.... I just remind myself, how ever cr*p I feel now, poking through FB will make it worse... It tells you nothing, leaves you with assumptions, and generally is just a thing to do to stop us looking at ourselves and solving that problem... Its tough, but the withdrawal does ease...
Post by Jacarandagirl on Nov 14, 2011 3:00:32 GMT -8
Take it from me- every time you resist and DON'T stalk him, you will grow in strength and resolve and in time, it gets easier and easier. I'm also helped greatly by the fact that he doesn't ping me at all.
Either way you can choose recovery! It's so much more fun!
"You deserve better than something that may be comfortable for you but you already know doesn't work and that you'll be complaining about soon enough and hoping that something or someone else will do what you can't even do for yourself. You deserve better - you deserve change".
Excerpt from www.baggagereclaim.com
Post by LovelyJune on Nov 14, 2011 14:55:43 GMT -8
And you will continue to feel like junk unless you stop the behavior of stalking. What can you do in place of stalking? What can you do in place of being on FB? MAKE A LIST of alternative activities and get cracking. It sounds easier said than done. But how's this for a reason to change your behavior: you are TOO GOOD TO BE STALKING SOMEONE. Period.