Post by Loving My Life on Dec 29, 2011 3:52:07 GMT -8
That really sounds exactly the way I was when I first got sober, I have spent my whole life trying to change people, it has been a learning process to just "let people be. We can offer suggestions, but we cant change anyone. what a valuable lesson to learn. It does get frustrating at times, but its better than trying to control to outcome. Thanks for sharing Nvr2late.
One day at a time :-) :-). . .We can do together, what we could never do alone. :-) And a problem shared, is a problem cut in half. :-) :-)
For me I don't 'even offer suggestions anymore, if someone wants to know something they can ask. My codependency was huge and I can still slip into it on occasion. Keep the focus on me and the rest will fall into place seems to be the best advice I can give myself!
Post by Jacarandagirl on Dec 29, 2011 5:13:18 GMT -8
unfortunately I relate totally.
"You deserve better than something that may be comfortable for you but you already know doesn't work and that you'll be complaining about soon enough and hoping that something or someone else will do what you can't even do for yourself. You deserve better - you deserve change".
Excerpt from www.baggagereclaim.com
Si, if a give my 20 year old twins advice about education, or friends, money etc, would that bee considered codependency. They are still only very young adults and i think in need of guidance. but when they tell me that they know what to do, i do but out.