When we have trouble reading other people's body language it often comes from being too much in our heads. Does this sound right? If so, try to get out of your head and focus on the world around you and what's happening.
I agree with LovelyJune's whole comment with the emphasis on the above I quoted.
James, this is just my additional observation (though I haven't read any of your personal post ever except for the ones here in this thread)... I noticed that as nice guy as you are, perhaps it would help if you will try to "make a connection" with the people around you. Sometimes we neglect to "reciprocate" and so we cut the connection abruptly... When the other person(s) feel not being heard or acknowledged enough, it discouraged them from continuing. So it might help to be more present, sensitive, and active to what is actually happening around us.
Your recovery is worth the pain of your withdrawal. Remember that "the pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow." Fantasy-based relationship is a lie. Face your reality and stay well!Kind Regards to all LAA members here, - Codepnomore
I know in the back of my mind that these feelings are my inner child and not real but, I always tend to think people don't want to be around me. I was teased badly in elementary school. I always felt like I didn't fit in. I have a hard time reaching out for that reason. It's easier with people who are toxic than normal people. Even on this board when no one responds to my post. My immediate thought is they don't like me. It's immature and childish and I hope untrue. That's the problem, I don't really know that it's untrue. Does anyone else struggle with this??
Wow I feel the exact same way!!!!!! You are NOT alone. This also affected my ability to have intimate relationships because I chose ppl who were either emotionally unavailable or I had to work for their affection. This inner child technique really does bring the meaning behind a lot of your actions to surface but the important thing is that at least you KNOW this about yourself. You are learning and the more you know yourself the less anyones opinion of you will matter. I know its a struggle still finding that security
I feel exactly same way. I do feel awkward when I go see my friend because I am very open warm person, and after I leave the gossiping goes round. In my new job ppl barely familiar with me know about me more that I would like them to know. These hard few months i am not very close to ppl Arround, intend to choose 1 close friend. And tend to avoid close conversations.as no one knows am going through really tough time, depression . I just don't get along with ppl. I hardly fit anywhere. People feel fake, pretending to be nice, self centered.. I was bullied at school for my out appearance, had rough bring up. Am tryin very hard to pull myself together and be happy on my own with my lovely kids.