I agree with Loving My Life - staying away from alcohol is best so that you can keep your self-control. Avoid your triggers. Know that you can do this! You are allowed to go out with your friends and have fun without letting your addiction get in the way. Let this be a night about you and your girls - try to not even notice the guys around. Good luck and have a GREAT time!
Post by Loving My Life on Feb 28, 2014 9:54:56 GMT -8
Blessed this is where you can apply what you have learned in recovery also, and apply to your everyday life situations as well.
You will start to see how different things are, and how people will start to react to you differently, in a positive way. You will hear things like, you have really changed, and that is a good thing, unless people are jealous, you will notice that as well. It really is a awesome feeling, when we start taking care of ourselves.
This is how is has worked for me also!!!
One day at a time :-) :-). . .We can do together, what we could never do alone. :-) And a problem shared, is a problem cut in half. :-) :-)
Post by CodepNomore on Feb 28, 2014 17:40:17 GMT -8
I agree with LML.
In addition, stay honest with yourself (know your limits and if you are ready or not for it.) Pray about it too. If you are in doubt and restless, you can always turn around and change your plan. Remember, your recovery comes first. Those bands come and go. And if a bar is a toxic place for you, why put yourself at risk this time?
I hope you enjoy your time while keeping yourself in reality check for your own good.
Your recovery is worth the pain of your withdrawal. Remember that "the pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow." Fantasy-based relationship is a lie. Face your reality and stay well!Kind Regards to all LAA members here, - Codepnomore
That is so great that you didn't do anything the night that you went out! Congratulations and good for you! I'm glad you could have fun just hanging out with your girl friends.
I know - the obsessiveness thing is just crazy. I obsessed over my crush all weekend long. It's not like I have access to him or anything. Just keep remembering he is married - throw away his phone number. Stop listening to his music. You did handle yourself really well the other night - be proud of that! You can stop this right now if you want to...just decide to stop it. I know it's easier said but if you don't contact this guy chances are no more contact will be made so just make the firm decision to control yourself and not contact him. And keep on posting here.