tools for new relationship Dec 3, 2014 7:38:51 GMT -8 via mobile
Post by evo on Dec 3, 2014 7:38:51 GMT -8
Hi LovelyJune, it's me again. I find myself still struggling with ambivalent feelings in my relationship with O. The bottom line is I just don't love him, but I assumed that because he was sort of the kind of person I was looking for, the love will come eventually. I mean I have fun with him, but the other day I did research..huh...to figure out how a person knows when they are in love. I have to say that I'm definitely not in love. Yet because all I know is falling into crushes with unavailable men or feeling nothing for available men, I made myself stay in this relationship for almost 6 months now(the longest relationship I've been in aside from my marriage). I've heard of people who eventually fell in love with their partners after a long time, and I figured I would do the same as the previous methods have not worked. I just don't know anymore. My best friend, who was dating a man she didn't love but who was good to her, left the guy for a man she fell head over heels in love with, but this guy treats her badly. She told me the other day that love sometimes is overrated, because now she is stuck being so in love with this guy who is just bad. And that's what I thought too when I started dating this guy. I liked him okay, but I was never crazy about him, and I figured that's better than falling for the wrong guy, which I very much always do. But now I feel so confused being in this relationship with someone I don't really care about. Like I said, he's good and we have fun together, but every time I imagine a future with him I cringe. I just can't see myself spending a future with him. Yet I don't really want to break up with him cos there's nothing wrong with him, yet. I just don't feel that connected to him. Is it me? Is it him? LovelyJune, how did you know you had fallen in love with D? And after how long?