I have hurt women, my family. I have been a liar, cheater. Thousands of people would accuse me if they know what I did and what I didn’t do. Morals, ethics and justice would never support me. There are 2 types of men. A good man and a bad man. I am a bad man. How should I live from now? This forum is the answer and the solution, maybe.
For me -- this is how I live -- by following the best definition of the word 'LOVE' I have ever come across --
Love is "WILLING (wishing for/wanting) THE GOOD OF THE OTHER"
To will the good of others means wanting their best. Wanting their best means not using others for personal gratification. As a love addict, I used others. I did not 'will their best' - subsequently, I hut others (and I hurt myself in the process).
I am very careful and deliberate now in how I treat others. I ask myself, 'Are my words/actions towards them in their best interests?' Am I willing the good of the other?'
This is how I live. I do not do it perfectly. I am a work in progress. But it is what I strive for, and I pray daily for the strength to live it out...
Last Edit: Aug 5, 2019 13:44:58 GMT -8 by havefaith
What makes you happy may differ from what others may find brings them happiness. Are they in conflict? Not conflict in the "it's time to have a war" sense. Giving people their own space in a relationship so they can do what makes them happy - and them giving YOU space isn't conflict. It's healthy.