i want to tell everyone about my day. first ive had a crush on a guy at work for a year and was told he's gay. now it's starting to sink in. this morning he was flirting with a guy in front of me. i was thinking about that all day and am sad. i want to get used to making my self feel better without daydreaming and obsessing
I encourage you to move on. In college I got a crush on a guy and when I found out he was gay I wanted him anyway. Back then romantic love was more important than anything. Now I know that compatibility is more important.
“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it elsewhere." Buddha
He wasn't flirting with another man to diss you. He was just - flirting for himself. A gay person is gay - that can't be changed.
IDK what your work situation is, but see if you can change your internal location when you both work together. When you see him say to yourself, "Not available. I need to focus on [task at hand]. He is NOT AVAILABLE. Focus on [task at hand]."