Post by Susannah on Jan 6, 2020 16:17:20 GMT -8
Step 3: [We] Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
If we are "powerless" over love and our lives are unmanageable, and God, as we understand God, can restore us to sanity then it is best we turn our life and our will over to God so that he can mend our broken hearts.
Note that God can mean some benevolent force in the universe or the God within which knows what is best for us. Note that we turn ourselves over to the "care" of God. This is a decision which must be followed by action. J
Just how do we turn our will over? We commit to change. We look to our recovery friends for an example of a sane way to love and we follow in their footsteps. We find the right path through trial and error. Our only guide is the belief that God wants us to be healthy and happy. If we are not, then we are going in the wrong direction.
God will lead you to people and books which will help you. God will lead you forward. Without God we are defenseless against our addiction. You do not have to be religious to believe in goodness. God is goodness. God is spirit.
The spiritual approach to recovery may be hard on some people. But it is tried and true. Herbert Spencer said "Ignorance is contempt prior to investigation." Try this approach if you have failed to get better on your own or with therapy alone. There are legions of people for whom this approach has worked. Surrender (to be free from addiction) to an old familiar God or to a new God of your choice. Don't be afraid. You will meet others on this path. You will not be alone.
Step 3 begins with a cognitive decision. Your thinking brain [neo-cortex] overrides the emotional fear of surrender and you decide to turn all of you over . . . your past; your dreams and wishes; your pride; your will; your future; your recovery; your emotions; most of all your shame. You turn all of this over.
Joseph Campbell said, "If you are on the right path, invisible hands will come to your aid." In AA they say take three steps forward and if you hit a brick wall turn left.
From this point on everything is a miracle. The good and the bad. Everything is in order and everything is perfect because it is God’s will.
Make the decision. Recite the third step prayer to someone.
You must also take some time to create some morals for yourself. Then you will know if you are doing right or wrong.
You do not need to use the right or wrong of any established religion belief system. Create your own set of values.
Write a few paragraphs about your experience with this step.