Post by Susannah on Jan 6, 2020 16:30:05 GMT -8
Step 4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
This step is like a diagnosis of our problem. When doctors are looking for a cure they begin by isolating the virus that is causing the disease. We must do the same. We must take a good hard look at ourselves. We must isolate distorted values, thoughts, and behavior. We must find and write about all the negative personality traits that cause our addiction. We must consciously define what has to be changed if we wish to heal. We must know what parts of ourselves we wish to keep and which parts we want to get rid of. Some people call the fourth step a blueprint for change.
At the same time we do not want to shame ourselves. The steps are meant to help us reduce shame by owning our shortcomings and then giving them to God to discard.
While the step seems to be only about our shortcomings, if you read the original step literature from AA, it mentions briefly that we should also list our virtues to add some balance to the step. So make sure when you are done with listing your shortcomings you list your positive traits.
Please ignore the phrase "character defect" as it was written before we realized the shaming aspect of it.
The first time we take an inventory it is difficult to identify everything we need to know about ourselves. Don't worry about this. As we grow, more is revealed. Then we can do another fourth-step inventory. The point of the fourth step is to practice self-honesty and to get us into the habit of looking at ourselves with the idea of making changes. Even a short fourth-step inventory will accomplish this purpose. This step is very important.
I have attached a fourth step guide to help you. It is a inventory for love addicts.