The attachment disorder occurs between years 1 - 5. For me it was when I was put in the hospital. I cried every moment my mom was gone and every time she came and went I felt abandoned.
After age 5 it turns into attachment dysregulation. As you get older this leads to fantasies about growing up, finding a lover, and living happily ever after. These fantasies sustained me until I was 17 when I decided to leave home and find my "knight in shining armor." Because of my low self-esteem, all I found was abusive men who took advantage of me. This rest of the story in in the LAA book entitled "The Hungry Heart."
In recovery, we begin with behavior modification like no contact. Eventually we have to go to therapy and heal the original wound. In my experience, therapy was not enough. I learned a lot but I did not heal until I found God who gave me the love I never god from my mother . . .